No matter how much money you make or how well your career is going, you must ask yourself the most important question of all: Am I happy?
If the answer to that question is no, then you’re in the wrong spot.
“Donâ€™t worry about the level of individual prominence you have achieved; worry about the individuals you have helped become better people. This is my final recommendation: Think about the metric by which your life will be judged, and make a resolution to live every day so that in the end, your life will be judged a success.” – Clayton Christensen, Harvard Business School
What invevitably happens with people who are not in personal/professional alignment is they use excuses and non-decision as a way to cope. They worry about how they’ll make their mortgage payment, car payment, or support that new baby. They worry how it might affect their spouses career or if it will mean they’ll have to move. Those are all valid concerns but they’re not enough to keep you in a place where you’re miserable.
My question to my friends and professional contacts that find themselves in that situation, and use excuses and non-decision to stay put, is: who is going to pay your mortgage if you’re dead? Who is going to care for your kids if you’re dead?
Ok, so I am being a little dramatic. We must think in these terms when we do think about priorities. Being career driven is admirable. But if it’s not inline with your personal beliefs or values, and allows you to stay in relative balance, it’s just not worth it.
Your personal and professional lives can and must be in balance to maintain a happy and fulfilling life.
Don’t settle for less.